Let’s get acquainted, shall we? I’m Jasmin. I am 32 and a re-married mother of 3. I super love my kids, more than anything else in the world. But there have been times I have seriously considered locking myself in a room and refusing to come out. My kids are wonderful, beautiful, intelligent, snarky, too smart for their own good, and sometimes annoying. I know. What a rotten mom.
Let me give you a brief breakdown of my kids personalities for you to better judge me. Our oldest, 13, loves me sometimes and the other times pretends I’m not here. She is so beautiful and talented. But she is angsty, dark, and brooding, and sometimes hurtful. We walk a fine line with her because while she can get out of line, she is incredibly fragile. We have to be very careful with our critique.
Our middle daughter, 9, is our difficult child. She is the most loving, cuddly little thing you will ever meet. She has an incredible sense of empathy. And she throws a tantrum like no one I have ever known. She hits, she argues with every word that comes out of our mouths, outright refuses to listen, and she pushes you straight to the very edge. With her is where I feel I’ve had my biggest parent failures. Each day with her is both a new opportunity and a new challenge.
Our youngest, 7, is the most amazing happy go lucky little guy ever. He is so incredibly sweet and considerate. He is a little sensitive, which makes me worried he might get picked on as he gets older. But he is also such a major space case. He forgets so many things. We have had to replace so many sweatshirts, lunchboxes, school books. It is a challenge, but it’s also super hard for me to be tough with such a sweet little man!
With each of these little peoples challenges, we’ve come up with some pretty interesting strategies along the way. Some have worked, some have been hard fails. But I want to share the things that have worked for us with you, and hopefully it will help (like our daily schedule to help reduce meltdowns and set expectations).
Kids and Traveling Don’t Go Together
Or at least they didn’t go well together for us, not for a long time! I have the type of personality where I don’t like to necessarily plan my vacations. I like to leave my agenda open and see where the day takes me. With kids, that was bad.
We learned, after a lot of trial and error, that at least for one of our kids (can you guess which one?) we needed to have an itinerary. Almost months in advance. It definitely isn’t my ideal way to travel. The first time we took them on a plane was on a surprise trip to Disney and we didn’t say a word – I’ll post a more elaborate story about that trip another time. But now we know we can’t wing it, and so far it’s working out a little better. I’ll share our stories of what’s working, what’s not, and how we’re evolving our strategy as we go. And I’ll even spill about where the best food is.
What I Love
I think it goes without saying that I love my kids and my husband the most. But the little things that bring me joy are reading, baking, travelling, and writing. I know it sounds a little Martha Stewart, except I’m not polished, I don’t trade stock, and I unfortunately do not know Snoop Dogg. We can’t all have it all.
What can you expect from me?
You can expect me to speak openly about life, and ask you to do the same if you’re comfortable. I’m open to most discussions, with few exceptions. Mostly I’d like to share my experiences, tips, and tricks with you and connect with you!